Keeping the Lessons Of the Past in Mind for the Generations to Benefit
It's been special to attend many of the Memorial Day gatherings in each Northwest CT town as pictured on the Lakeville Journal CT newspaper FB page. The past issues of the Lakeville Journal are being put online as well through a special effort as well, so people can feel connected to the essense of this area and small town American history as well.
Along with memorial services for people and modern challenges, the Memorial Day gatehrings reflect heartfelt recollections of the past and plenty of important daily acts of team-building and even heroism in many walks of life that create one caring, amazing community after another.
Sometimes, the smaller, the mightier, as in the case of Cornwall and Falls Village. Even in the case our our late teen Kaelan Alexander Palmer Paton, he was strong from being athletic and boating a bit yet his courage and skill facing dire situations to help his friends in dangerous waters are aspects many could benefit from learning about.
The connections on many levels can be made by each country, state and person wanting to consider 'what it means to them' in terms of helping focus early intervention efforts, including water and youth safety as well as accountablity for all involved and next generations. Even caring for elders who are not necessarily as capable from one episode to the next of a health challenge or due to dementia or other factors could be discussed more widely. Since 'only when a health or other crisis or accident occurs' might there be an intervention.
A voluntary assessment for safety could be done for each person, home, relationship (whether with people one lives with or is involved with romantically, at work, in a neighborhood, a group and so on.) That would help each peron be encouraged to 'face the warning signs' and even tune into their own personality and life situation that may be feeding the conflict or crisis.
Legal or religious and cultural recommendations often include 'separating the parties' for a period of time or clarifying accountability to interact with respect and without pressure and control. Those are often 'too little, too late' and 'wishful thinking.' Yet because the concerns are often 'hard to name or may not be illegal' people can be 'circling the drain' and using up many resources trying to figure things out with what laws and options exist in their community, not necessarily what professionals and safety guidelines would indicate may be Necessary even if not Desirable by one or more of the parties involved.
When it comes to 'child custody' all bets can be off in terms of what is Deemed in the Best Interest of the Child/ren (BIC.) US House Resolution 72 is proposing that Safety being prioritized specifically by giving custody of children to an alleged or proven victim of abuse or control (generally the mother.)
Every state would then need to put a similar legislation into action. The transition time can be years so there is all the more reason for people to Get Many Consults About Such Terms and Plans BEFORE they have children, date, marry, set guidelines for their relationships and so on.
That can pertain to family dynamics with each person's social circles as well, so 'expectations' are not dashed or the root cause of much conflict. Many people of different faiths, cultures, ages and so on may find themselves at odds over 'assumptions they did not make time or get help to review honestly and put in writing.' Then the confusion can grow with references to what one thought the other said or meant.
These are important review steps that could apply to many areas of life. Being more realistic about what is means to be human over time, to face challenges and concerns, to be open to get help and find if not invest in some steady resources over time can be important 'behind the scenes' factors to someone's life choices and journey. There is often an 'inner game' playing out in the situations in one's life. Other posts cover those ideas, so having a basic level of intelligence, maturity and accountability for setting intentions and being able to fulfill them is important for more people to assess within reason.
The laws come into play when standards have been broken. Many systems are making those more common in the realm of physical or mental health to live safely independently. However many people can cover their symptoms and find ways to manage driving even if not likely a safe practice, or manage money even if having major gaps in understanding managing funds and projects they may have been able to do well in the past.
There are many reasons to promote more advocacy for people at all ages and stages of life to be safe, respected, supported and have a team of help as may be needed, without a high cost or sense of shame.
Our teen son Kaelan had made good friends in Cornwall from his Sharon roots, even biking there at times and as many know, boating with his Dad at the Covered Bridge Whitewater Slalom Race.
Yet facing the challenges that come with the freedom and courage to be a country team player is something more can reflect on given the turn of events when he and friends were 'where they shouldn't have been' (at the dangerous river alone and going in even a 'safer looking part whether adults had okayed that or not.)
That message of setting clear boundaries to help keep everyone safe and prevent needs to emergency responses from youth or trained rescuers, volunteer or professional, can be shared nationally and beyond. The Common Sense Guidelines that could intervene the all too typical set of 'missed warnings' or pushing the limits can be a shared endeavor to create and publicize.
Even people getting in touch with their own lifestyle and health care choices is deemed radical, with many feeling 'they have to do what others said' without checking with reliable other sources'. All parents, schools, faith and town leaders can work together locally and at the state level to create 'very common sense guidelines' for all aspects of supervising minors. That is a legal and ethical responsibility of adults... and looking into custody and divorce laws Before one has a child or gets married (or even makes a serious commitment) would be a key public education campaign as well. Thanks for doing your part.
There is more about our late heroic teen Kaelan Palmer Paton online, on youtube and on FB. Thanks for learning from his amazing life and courageous efforts to help save his friends from the Housatonic River as summer began right after he finished his first year of high school a mile from where he transitioned to the spiritual realm.
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