Responding to Ideas About Tom Drew's Case in Salisbury CT...10 years later

Only reading an online article by Bettina Drew now, I realize there is interest in my phone records from July 2007. I would not have a problem with that. I actually would like to brave requesting them as well from 2006 to 2009 in terms of the ones my son Kaelan Paton was alive before passing suddenly at age 16 in mid-June 2009.

I would like to find people who would help craft plans to provide a way to address the conflict that is still simmering around Tom Drew's last known location, his home in Salisbury CT. to help his family and anyone else come to a more clear understanding that I have always told the truth about our last day together on July 21st, 2007.

I would think many people from counselors, ministers, mediators, neighbors and friends could find ways to discuss the situation in writing (in private and eventually convey points in a public way as all agree to do so.) While a solution of finding Tom Drew in good health and having him returned safely within a short period of time was our clear unified hope, the 'recovery effort' of his body if he had died from injuries or a heart attack or any attack from animals, a car or a person became a more pressing matter to consider.

The hope for healing may have been abandoned if considering Tom Drew likely perished in nature or by meeting with dangerous people or a vehicular assault. Yet when defining 'healing and resolution' in a broader way, as what we could all learn from both Tom's amazing life and spirit when alive and the strange turn of events and ongoing absence, more insights can be gained into the human condition and the needs of our states and country.

Primarily, caring for others and one's own safety and well-being needs to be more of a team effort on many levels before someone is at risk for wandering or even for going out ''for a walk alone or on a road with high risks for harm' such as the main road Tom may have gotten to (although a few accounts indicate he was on back roads or trails.) Many better terms for care of people in general will take months to think about and to implement voluntarily.

Checking one's physical, mental and social health, financial and even 'spiritual' or sense of connection to one's community, values, larger energies and groups in one's world view all come into play. Many online resources may become more central to providing sensible guidelines since whether in rural or urban areas, finding people to connect with on a regular basis can be challenging in modern times.

Phone calls and emails may provide a big portion of how people relate rather than face to face or regular visits. Hopefully we can look for the larger lessons and even the bigger blessings that we are learning from having journeyed in our lives through difficult times whether regarding someone like Tom Drew and his last known day on earth or learning about minors needing more accountability and others of any age likely needing to also be more clear about laws (for living with others, getting married or having children, making health representative choices and guidelines for others to follow clear with one's doctor.)

Everyone has much more in common than not in our modern world, based on one's country and state and in towns and smaller communities. Let's make that work for our benefit and not allow overwhelming allegations rock our foundation of friendship and care which generally keeps everything moving in a more positive direction. I share many more ideas along these lines on livfully.org.

I have also posted many positive hopes on a FB Page in memory of our teen son. What would any of us want to have done in our memory or if events in our lives took a turn for the worse (mainly in terms of health but possibly relationships, housing or other challenges... even having a clear condition needing monitoring. Who would we trust and enlist for help that could carry though with accountability to a main website for housing and other care as setting important guidelines.

IF the people of any questionable turn of events would Voluntarily turn over their phone records, and even their homes and cars for investigation to help clarify matters, others could help provide replacement housing, transportation and so on. Why don't we have such a response initiative. Hopefully more people could join in promoting such advocacy.

Again there are no easy solutions when people have emotional issues to sort through and blaming others or being blind to the truth may be part of that. Again more counselors and a willingness to work toward becoming more supported and engaged in a process over the course of a few months to gain clarity would make sense